Men, visiting Thailand, the, ‘land of smiles’ enjoy the bars, hot weather and disco’s with their loud music and stunning hostesses. Visitors spending time in the presence of an (equally hot) young lady who constantly reminds them how handsome you are in exchange for their company and a few drinks can be quite intoxicating but remember, these girls are professionals, professionals in extracting every bit cash from the gullible walking ATM’S (there name for us), You and I.
After spending a few days, and nights! With the new love of their life the enamored holiday maker exchanges contact details, says goodbye and returns home to reality. His new "Thai Girl Friend” will want to keep in touch and will contact him every opportunity.
The conversations may soon turn to appeals for support and Thai bar girls seem to have the knack of crying at will. She may well ask you to send her cash for an emergency or for her family who apparently have a major problem on their farm in some far off part of Thailand.
Or she simply asks for money to support her so she no longer as to work in the bar as she doesn’t like going with the customers. If you decide to send her money each month, and it is likely to be as much as you can afford, you have become a sponsor and are now officially sponsoring your girlfriend.
People might label it as foolish! Why, they ask, you would want to send your hard earned money to someone you have only just met and have known for only a short period of time. Nobody is saying that all bar girls are intent on ripping you off but, the chance that you have found “the one” is very remote. The chances are she has another sponsors already or even multiple sponsors all sending her money and all thinking they are the only one in her life.
Speaking as an ex- sponsor I can see how sponsoring happens. They call the need to ‘rescue’ somebody living in what might be considered, by western standards, squalid and sad conditions as the ‘white knight’ syndrome. The truth, however, is often completely different. Many of the bar girls like their life, they like sitting around, chatting, eating spicy food and joking.
Having sex with strangers is a small price to pay for the comparative luxury of not working on the family farm in the blistering hot sun, day after day.... but I digress.
This blog is for sponsors everywhere, Thailand, India, Philippines, Bali, Turkey, Africa the West Indies. Everywhere westerners, men and women, holiday and end up sponsoring somebody they have met because they like them, or love them, or even feel sorry for them.
This blog is where sponsors can chat about fears and concerns, exchange views, or the cheapest ways of sending money abroad. Being a sponsor can be a lonely existence, people at home can’t understand why you send money to somebody you can only be with a few weeks a year. Sponsor’s can’t be sure their partners are being faithful, or if they are being unfaithful and in other relationships and if so are these people sending them money as well as them.
Is the relationship going anywhere are you throwing money away and being made to look stupid, is the relationship just a waste of time?
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