Sponsor a Thai Bar Girl!

Are you sponsoring Your Thai Girl Friend! What is sponsoring, why do you want to sponsor her, and how much you should sponsor?

Men, visiting Thailand, the, ‘land of smiles’ enjoy the bars, hot weather and disco’s with their loud music and stunning hostesses. Visitors spending time in the presence of an (equally hot) young lady who constantly reminds them how handsome you are in exchange for their company and a few drinks can be quite intoxicating but remember, these girls are professionals, professionals in extracting every bit cash from the gullible walking ATM’S (there name for us), You and I.


After spending a few days, and nights! With the new love of their life the enamored holiday maker exchanges contact details, says goodbye and returns home to reality. His new "Thai Girl Friend” will want to keep in touch and will contact him every opportunity.

The conversations may soon turn to appeals for support and Thai bar girls seem to have the knack of crying at will. She may well ask you to send her cash for an emergency or for her family who apparently have a major problem on their farm in some far off part of Thailand.

Or she simply asks for money to support her so she no longer as to work in the bar as she doesn’t like going with the customers. If you decide to send her money each month, and it is likely to be as much as you can afford, you have become a sponsor and are now officially sponsoring your girlfriend.

People might label it as foolish! Why, they ask, you would want to send your hard earned money to someone you have only just met and have known for only a short period of time. Nobody is saying that all bar girls are intent on ripping you off but, the chance that you have found “the one” is very remote. The chances are she has another sponsors already or even multiple sponsors all sending her money and all thinking they are the only one in her life.

Speaking as an ex- sponsor I can see how sponsoring happens. They call the need to ‘rescue’ somebody living in what might be considered, by western standards, squalid and sad conditions as the ‘white knight’ syndrome. The truth, however, is often completely different. Many of the bar girls like their life, they like sitting around, chatting, eating spicy food and joking.

Having sex with strangers is a small price to pay for the comparative luxury of not working on the family farm in the blistering hot sun, day after day.... but I digress.

This blog is for sponsors everywhere, Thailand, India, Philippines, Bali, Turkey, Africa the West Indies. Everywhere westerners, men and women, holiday and end up sponsoring somebody they have met because they like them, or love them, or even feel sorry for them.

This blog is where sponsors can chat about fears and concerns, exchange views, or the cheapest ways of sending money abroad. Being a sponsor can be a lonely existence, people at home can’t understand why you send money to somebody you can only be with a few weeks a year. Sponsor’s can’t be sure their partners are being faithful, or if they are being unfaithful and in other relationships and if so are these people sending them money as well as them.

Is the relationship going anywhere are you throwing money away and being made to look stupid, is the relationship just a waste of time?

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The French and Infidelity

Infidelity most  French think it’s ok !

The French are the most forgiving nation in the world  when it comes to having affairs it was revealed in a recent study by the pew Research Centre in a study in 2013. The study was undertaken well before the present French President Francois Hollande was allegedly caught visiting his actress girlfriend Julie Gayet during his lunch break in Paris (he would pull up outside her flat on a motor scooter wearing a full face crash helmet). However the people in the US are not so forgiving and rank 28^th on the list just behind Ghana and Brazil.

The study researched people from 39 countries about attitudes towards extra marital affairs asking them the question "Do you personally believe that married people having an affair is morally acceptable, morally unacceptable or is not a moral issue?"

France was the most forgiving with only 47% saying it was morally unacceptable and a huge 77% (source French institute of Public Opinion) said the alleged affair was a private matter which meant only 23% thought the matter was a matter of public concern.

So how did the rest of the world compare to the French in the ‘ affairs are unacceptable stakes’ ? Germany 2^nd with 60%, Italy 65%, Spain 64% and South Africa 65%. See the entire list here.

Thailand Illegal Immigration Concerns

Thai Immigration Police  Crackdown in North-East Thailand

Immigration Police in North East Thailand have announced the begining of an initiative on foreigners entering Thailand posing as tourists, who they suspect working illegally in the Kingdom, a  seminar for immigration officers was told on Monday.in Khon Kaen.

This latest crackdown is to also going to target foreigners on border runs and those who have entered and re-entered Thailand a number of times using tourist visas over a prolonged period of time.

After an wide ranging and thorough investigation into foreign visitors the Immigration Department Thailand has found repeated patterns of immigration irregularities, with some foreign nationals re-entering the country up to 60 times, but each only for a duration of between 15 and 30 days.

Further investigations revealed that out of those people who regularly re-entered Thailand, very large numbers came from neighboring countries such as Vietnam, Cambodia,Laos and Myanmar, with many working in restaurants, factories, and construction sites and the fishing industry

Immigration Police have now stepped up their operations all across all the twenty provinces in the northeast of Thailand and in particular in the areas of Mukdahan, Nong Khai Ubon and Ratchathani all  of which are widely used by people re-entering Thailand on border runs.

Officers have also been instructed to  closely scrutinise  each individual, regardless of what country they come from, in deciding whether to deny them entry to the kingdom.

40,000 foreigners blacklisted

High tech identity scanning machines will be installed at entry points throughout North Thailand and electronic processing will also be brought in nationwide. All data will then be cross-referenced with the central immigration database which a wealth of detailed information on the 40,000 foreigners who are presently blacklisted from entering Thailand.

Checkpoint data will also be used to help combat people suspected of smuggling or transportation of illegal goods into Thailand, as well as in assisting in national security issues.

Immigration officers were warned of the harsh penalties they can expect to face should they be found to be illegally involved in any corrupt practices with regards to assisting, aiding or abetting foreigners who enter Thailand illegally.

Bar Bill Padding in Angeles City - Philippines

Watch out for The Bar Bill Padding Scam!

Our operative in Angeles Philippines has identified some bill padding scams in Fields Avenue. A Swedish gentleman customer was beaten up by staff at a well known bar after he disputed the bar bill.

Photographs showed a badly beaten Swedish gentleman who’d been assaulted by  bouncer's for refusing to pay his bill. friends of  the Swedish guy said that he visited the club accompanied by a girl who was not employed by the bar. His drinks bill was given to him when he went to leave, and he was charged for lady drinks for her, even though she did not work there.

He refused to pay for the more expensive lady drinks, and insisted on the drink price for an ordinary customer. An argument developed and  he was allegedly attacked by two of the bar bouncers as well as the mamasan He was taken to a local hospital, badly injured.

This is not the first time that alleged  bill padding has happened at this particular bar. It is recommended that bar bills are checked regularly through the evening, if necessary after every purchase to ensure the bill is not padded. One customer speculated that these scams maybe run by the mamasan and bouncers and management may not be aware.

Always check bills and if necessary pay as you go rather than run up a tab, leave early if you think you are being scammed, go to another bar, there are plenty of them in Angeles City.

Bar Bill Padding is just one of a number of scams pulled on Tourists visiting Angeles City you can read more
scams on our blog at: http://fidelitycheckonline.com/blog 

Dementia Sufferes targeted by Internet Fraudsters

Fraudsters are targeting the most vulnerable people in society, "they need more protection" says  charity bosses.

The Alzheimer's Society estimates that 15% of people with dementia have been victims of frauds such as scam mail, mis-selling or cold calling.

Those figures equal 112,500 people, losing an average of £850 each.

It is also claimed that being a victim can cause a person's illness to become worst and may even ultimately result in their death.

Social isolation is blamed for the ease that some people suffering from debenture become easy victims,  "even though they realise what is happening to them they continue to pay or send money just to keep up some human contact" the City of London Police report said.

"Because of these con artists, my dad now finds it very difficult to trust people”

The society spoke to 104 carers and 47 people with dementia, as well professionals in the field, nursing professionals, social workers and focus groups.

The result of the research  indicated that 62% of carers claimed that the person they cared for had been approached in person by people on the doorstep and 70% had been contacted telephone cold callers.

A spokesman for the Alzimers Society said they are only scratching the surface of the known abuse of the vulnerable.

The charity is compiling a training programme including;

Urging families who have a dementure sufferer to discuss money management at an early stage of their illness and consider the option of a power of attorney and redirecting post to stop junk mail.

The police have set up special departments to deal with elderly abuse and victims of financial crime.

They are also appealing to the wider community and society to look out for their neighbours, friends and family.

If somebody thinks they, or someone anybody they know, may be a victim of these type of crimes involving scams or rogue trading, they should contact the police, council trading standards service or Crimestoppers call 0800 555 111 without delay.

These organizations should be adopting a pro active approach to intervention so call them if you suspect somebody else is a victim even if they ask you not to do so.

Is my Girlfriend Cheating on me!

Different kinds of unfaithfulness

Are there really different kinds of infidelity?

When people talk about unfaithfulness in relationships they would be wrong to assume that there is only one kind, physical unfaithfulness. There are different kinds, some more dangerous than others.

For example which of these two scenarios would you consider to be the most dangerous to your relationship.

1. Partner comes home from the company Christmas party and says they are very sorry, they got drunk and passionately kissed a work colleague on the lips under the mistletoe, they say they are sorry and it won't happen again.

2. Partner comes home from work and says that over the past months they have been spending more time with somebody they work with, they have been talking for hours on end about everything imaginable, they make them laugh and have the same sense of humour. Today, this other person told them that they loved your partner and your partner thinks they feel the same. Nothing physical has happened between them not even a kiss.

If you haven't guessed it scenario two is by far the most dangerous threat to your relationship.

Even though nothing physical has happened between your partner and this other person they have still been unfaithful to your relationship, still broken the rules, they have allowed themselves to become emotionally involved with somebody else.

They might say that they couldn't help themselves and the attraction was too strong, they couldn't fight it, but I don't completely buy it.

People make choices, they may only be small ones to begin with but they make them all the same, they chose to spend time alone with this other person they chose to share intimate thoughts and desires, they chose to cross the line between a work colleague (friend) and something more. They knew what they were doing but they went ahead and did it anyway.

I am not passing judgement, these things sometimes happen in life, if your partner has fallen in love with somebody else there is really not a lot you can do about it. The only approach you can really take is to tell them what you want and feel and say "What do you want to do about it"?

The way I see it is they either stay with you or they go, what should be avoided at all costs is some halfway house, where they stay with you but are in love with and still pursuing a relationship with this other person. That path will lead to humiliation, loss of self respect and dignity that there might be no way back from.

So in our opinion YES there are several kinds of unfaithfulness!

Physical Unfaithfulness.
The first is straight forward physical unfaithfulness. Your partner has a physical relationship with somebody else, that could mean full sex or some other kind of sexual intimacy somebody might engage in not but the full act of sexual intercourse.

Emotional Unfaithfulness.
This could mean that no (or very little), physical sexual intimacy has taken place but your partner is in love with somebody else. They are emotionally committed to that other person, they rely on them for emotional support and confide in them.

Relationship Unfaithfulness.
Two people are still together but one or both parties to the relationship are so unhappy that at every opportunity they can they undermine, disrespectful or hateful comments about their partner to others.

If you suspect your partner is being unfaithful to you, simply register them with Fidelity Check Online and let us check them out on our database. Our service is discreet and totally confidential you will be the only one to find out if they are cheating on you!